Today I’m here with a discussion post and it feels like F O R E V E R since I’ve last written one, but I’m here with a topic I felt like I had to write because I’m so passionate about it so… yeah, enjoy!
Whether you like it or not, romance is something that is ever-present in all forms of entertainment. Though, I feel like it’s taken over the YA world more than is necessary.
The way that romance in YA can become an issue is if 1) it’s not represented well and shows unhealthy relationships in a way that is said to be ‘okay’ and if 2) the romance makes it seem like you need to have a boyfriend/girlfriend in order to be happy.
Let me tell you something new and undiscovered, my friends.
A book can still be enjoyable without romance.
You might be wondering how a book could possibly be interesting without any romance. Well, there’s a little something you might’ve heard of called friendship. Let me show you a dictionary definition.
And let me tell you something else: you don’t need romance in order for two people to love one another. There can be platonic love between two individuals with nothing else added.
You’re mind’s blown right about now, isn’t it?
Who would’ve thought that such a thing existed!
Yes I’m extremely sassy and sarcastic today, deal with it.
Now, if we could just see this represented in our books, that’d be fantastic, don’t you think?
Sarcasm aside, I do really think that the YA genre could use more friendships instead of romance. Just imagine two people meeting and developing a strong bond without having any romantic feelings for each other. I don’t know about you, but I’d read the book in a heartbeat!
But the problem is that these books don’t exist, or at least they’re not the books talked about by everyone in the community. If they do exist, they’re pushed to the back so that nobody even knows about them!
The books that get all of the attention and hype are the ones that have romance as the main focus. Why is this a problem you may ask? Don’t get me wrong because I have nothing against cupid, but don’t you get tired of the constant back and forth of “But I love you” and “Love will always save the day”… blah blah blah. I know that it bothers me.
Can’t there be something else?
Can’t two characters just care about one another in a way that doesn’t mean anything besides a platonic feeling towards one another?
I know that romance creates drama and drama creates tension and tension is what makes a story interesting and keeps the reader’s attention, but still.
Tension can also be present whenever two people are friends.
Just sayin’ it doesn’t have to be romantic.
When the main character falls in love with their love interest it seems like they throw everything – family, their future – to the back like they’re less important. I know not every story does this but it happens quite a bit.
I don’t know about you but if I had to choose between a hot guy and my dream job, I’d choose the dream job.
And I don’t know why I would have to choose, but he can wait.
If he truly loves me he can wait until I become successful on my own.
Some of the most beloved book series out there don’t actually have love as a main plot. Lord of the Rings focuses on Frodo on a journey with a band of friends so that he can destroy the ring before it destroys him. Harry Potter focuses on a boy fighting against evil with his friends.
There’s a key word there, people. Do you know what it is?
If you guessed that right you get a gold star.
If you hadn’t gotten the hint by now and guessed wrong, you get thrown into Mount Doom with the ring.
This is why – some shameless self promotion here, sorry y’all – the book I’m currently writing does have romance, but friendship is what drives the story and when romance fails and plunders, friendship prevails.
I hope y’all enjoyed this discussion post! When I gave y’all that forum thing to fill out giving me your feedback on my blog a lot of you wanted more discussion posts and I’ve been trying to improve on that so here ya go!
I’ve got lots more discussion posts I’ve started but haven’t finished cause discussion posts are really daunting for some reason. But anyway let me know what you thought of this!